Open Up

Have you ever had an intervention for your emotions? I have. Apparently, I don’t display my emotions well. And it bothers people. “I don’t really want to talk about it.” I say. “Why don’t you trust us?” They say. It’s so weird. People tell me to “open up more” and to “let them in”, but…Read more »

The Servant

“I’m sorry, sweetheart. You are the eldest, therefore you must serve the guests.” I never really questioned the principal of serving the elders when I was younger. It was a part of my culture. All of my siblings were able to either leave the house, or lock themselves in their rooms while dozens of guests…Read more »

The Boogeyman.

There was a boogeyman living in my home when I was young. I didn’t understand why he was invited, and why he had to stay for so long, but he was there. I wasn’t able to sleep at night. I knew something was off. My 9 year old self was really confused. Why is the…Read more »

Confidence.

Being confident is hard. I look at all my accomplishments and I feel super blessed of how far I came along. And I couldn’t be where I am today if it wasn’t for my mother, who has pushed me everyday to be the best, even when I wasn’t. Fake it ’til you make it –…Read more »

Welcome back, Polio!

I had the most infuriating conversation with a mutual friend – let’s call her Jane. She agrees with Kat Von D about not wanting to vaccinate her soon-to-be-born child, and that if Jane has kids, she wouldn’t vaccinate them. Someone please tell her she can’t take her future children to school. I really don’t understand…Read more »

Black Hair.

Dear black girl, You have made me the topic of unwanted conversation for many years. Every time I went to school, you would come up to me and ask to touch my hair. “Is that your real hair?” “Where did you buy your weave? I know it’s fake.” “Is your mom white?” “You are very…Read more »

Strength Wanted.

Half of the year has gone by. My gym membership remained unused. And my pockets suffered $240. New year resolutions just don’t work. Why is it that we all wait until the clock strikes midnight before we decide to make a change? To eat healthier? To smile more? To lose weight? Bullshit. I woke up…Read more »